09 Jun Let Your Body Wisdom be Your Guide
Decision-making can be an overwhelming task. In the process, we sometimes come to the conclusion that we’re at odds with ourselves, feeling that whichever option we choose will lead us to unhappiness, in one way or another. Tools like Choice Compass are designed to help us tap into our subconscious preferences — measuring and interpreting the types of physiological relations we have to specific options we set before ourselves. These reactions are referred to as “body wisdom” because they are bodily indicators of what the seemingly wise subconscious mind believes will result in more or less joy.
It would seem that using a tool like Choice Compass would take care of the majority of decision-making quandaries. If we assume that Choice Compass helps us to choose which of a pair of options will lead us to the greatest joy, it would follow that relying on Choice Compass for all of our decision-making needs would lead us to become happy with all of our decisions. But the truth is, we don’t really buy that. There are still going to be choices that “win” time and time again when we test them with Choice Compass, but that conflict with what we consciously feel we want. What to do then?
It’s important to consider three ideas when you’re in this situation:
1. Sometimes, there is no joyous outcome.
The idiom, “to be caught between a rock and a hard place,” seems apt for when no decision you make seems like the ideal because both decisions have more cons to them than pros. For example, maybe you’re in love with two different people and must choose between them. Or, what if the only two companies offering you a job in your field are ones you loathe? Your body wisdom can only tell you which answer will bring you the happiest outcome, even if what that really means is that it has to choose between the lesser of two evils.
2. It’s possible you haven’t weighed all of your options.
If you’re using Choice Compass to choose between two options and find yourself completely rejecting the choice your body wisdom has indicated, maybe it’s because all of the options weren’t really proposed — maybe both present choices that are equally objectionable, and you haven’t allowed yourself to consider “hidden option number three.” It’s seldom that we only have two choices to decide between. Even when we feel trapped, we rarely ever are. It may just take some creativity to come up with a better solution than those you initially gave yourself.
Going back to the last set of examples, if you’re in love with two people, maybe you should choose to spend some time alone and reflect on the underlying reasons you’ve had trouble emotionally committing to just one person. Or, if you’re looking for a job, and the only two offered are in locations distasteful to you, maybe a third option is to choose to start your own company, instead. Rarely are you out of control of your own life, forced into doing something you don’t want to do — you may just need to give yourself better options if you want to make better decisions.
3. Have you calibrated Choice Compass?
If you have low progesterone, you should probably use the “male” setting on Choice Compass, regardless of whatever you consider your gender to be. If Choice Compass consistently goes against your truly obvious choices, switch the setting to the opposite gender and check that one out; scroll to the bottom of this page for information about how to calibrate Choice Compass to your physiology.
4. When the subconscious will and the conscious will are in disagreement, the subconscious will eventually win the argument.
The most powerful part of our minds, the subconscious, records all of our sensory observations as well as our memories, thoughts, experiences, and beliefs. It regulates all of our involuntary physical processes, such as our heart rate and healing, and involuntary mental processes, such as our reactionary thoughts and feelings. Because of this dominance over so many aspects of who we are and how we live our lives, the subconscious is responsible for carrying out all patterns of our behavior. Thus, if we want to make decisions that will effect changes in our lives, it’s crucial to ensure the subconscious is willing to follow through on them. Otherwise, any efforts to carry them out will likely be unsuccessful; attempts can easily be thwarted by overwhelming emotions and obsessive analytical thought. Thus, when you put two decisions in front of the subconscious and, via body wisdom, find it chooses the option you find objectionable, bear in mind that your subconscious — governor of your emotions, intuition, and all the information you’ve ever been exposed to — is an excellent judge of which decision will make you feel happier in the long run.
In the end, there is rarely just one correct answer. By nature, all experiences are subjective in quality, as is the determination of anything as “better” or “worse,” especially when you can’t be sure of the final outcome. But when you find yourself hard-pressed to make a tough decision, it’s important to consider all your options, and it’s likely the safest bet to trust in your innate wisdom for guidance. And, once you make your choice, you may find no result ends up being a happy one — or you may find that it just takes a little bit of time before the joy your subconscious heralded finds its way into your life.